I got the feeling, you know the feeling, that makes you feel bad about yourself.
I hate feeling bad about myself, and yet, if I try to ignore it, which I don’t mean to do, it seems to grow. It’s like each time I ignore it, it comes back tenfold, as if to give me a second chance to address it.
Usually (well one would like to hope), when I get the feeling the second time around, I get the hint, but that doesn’t always mean I will address it right then and there. Sometimes I wait until I am SO unmotivated and beat down by myself, that I HAVE to do something about it. (Working on this.)
I am always reminded of Eckhart Tolle’s quote when I write about this…
“What you resist, persists.”
If only it was that easy to stop resisting…
And yet, with practice, I do believe that we can unlearn our urge to resist and deal with the feeling(s) that arise in the moment. It just takes time…
Why am I sharing this with you? Because one way I like to face those feelings head on, is through writing. It’s one thing that actually lessens the self-pressure and brings me back to sanity.
A lot of us resist even doing that. We are so scared of feeling MORE of what we’re already feeling, that we think by avoiding it, we will stop feeling it. But, as we know, this doesn’t really work.
A quick tip? A tip that I would have liked to give myself?
Your feelings are not to be feared. They will not take you down, unless you reject them or pretend as if they are not there. They have messages for you. They may be coming up for a reason. Use them as guide posts, showing you where your mind has taken you.
And before you get carried away by them, acknowledge them for what they are: feelings. Feelings come and go. It’s when we resist them, that they grow.
They are not happening to hurt you, but to help you. Open yourself up to them, without becoming engulfed in them.
You know what to do. Either let it go, if you can, the feeling I mean, or if it’s too strong to let go, address it a different way. But by all means, address it.
For me, the simple, and I didn’t say easy, act of getting out my journal and writing, can make it all the difference.
I legit JUST did this and immediately after writing down my feelings and thoughts, I got the inspiration to write this.
So the next time you're having one of those feelings, get out your journal, even if you don't feel like it and start writing. The release you'll feel will be well worth it.